Have you ever experienced situations with ever changing expectations? It makes it so hard to know when you have reached a goal or target when it keeps changing. In business, this can be frustrating to a team and even clients. In relationships it can create division and even demise. So what are some good practical ways to face a moving target? I thought we could look at it from two viewpoints. The one facing the moving target and the one moving it.
For the ones moving the target or may not even know they are moving it, here are a few tips to help clarify your expectations of others and to ease confusion and discouragement.
This week I have had two situations that fell into the gray area of choosing how to respond. As I thought about those situations this week, I wondered what exactly happens inside of us when we find ourselves in the place where there are no real set of rules or guidelines for how to respond? It can be an uncomfortable and awkward space to be in. It becomes a wrestling match inside to try to find resolve with either black or white; right or wrong. When we cant resolve which way to go, it creates an internal conflict, and the battle begins. Pride and ego can often vie for the prominent place alongside the relentless determination to be right at all costs. Without a clear path, our responses can override all sense of logic and common sense - then the conflict ensues.
If at that moment when we realize we have just entered the "gray area", taking a moment to spy another shade to apply besides black or white just might resolve not only the inner conflict, but the outer one as well. This color is the shade of GraYce. The color that appears in the form of compromise, humility or even a slight resemblance of someone eating a little "crow".
"Imperfection is the prerequisite for grace. Light only gets in through the cracks." - Phillip Yancy
Grace is what brings clarity in those gray areas of life, and brings harmony and peace when gray space emerges in relationships and situations with loved ones and business associates. The greatest difficulty we face in applying grace, is in deciding "who" goes first? The best way to solve that is to just BE first. Nothing diffuses a conflict faster when things land in that gray area, like a little dose of graYce.
“Grace is what picks me up and lifts my wings high above, and I fly! Grace always conquers! Be graceful in everything; in anger, in sadness, in joy, in kindness, in unkindness, retain grace with you!” - C. JoyBell
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