Have you ever experienced situations with ever changing expectations? It makes it so hard to know when you have reached a goal or target when it keeps changing. In business, this can be frustrating to a team and even clients. In relationships it can create division and even demise. So what are some good practical ways to face a moving target? I thought we could look at it from two viewpoints. The one facing the moving target and the one moving it.
For the ones moving the target or may not even know they are moving it, here are a few tips to help clarify your expectations of others and to ease confusion and discouragement.
In the 1960’s the phrase “if it feels good do it” was echoed by every man, woman and child. It was an era of free love, free thinking and free doing no matter who or what was affected by it. Bras were being burned, partners were being swapped and the role distinction between the sexes started to become blurred. This was not the beginning of some cultist revolution of immoral behavior nor was it the beginning of a new trend or phase that would soon fade like a pair of bell bottoms (which are back in style again). It was merely just a different twist on an age old way of life as a human. No one wants to be uncomfortable. No one wants to feel pain. We don’t want to deny ourselves any ounce of pleasure or comfort, if we can help it in any way. We are wired to avoid pain. We don’t instinctively gravitate toward pain or discomfort. It isn’t a ‘natural’ occurrence within our biological, emotional or spiritual makeup. We have to intentionally be put into discomforting situations – either by our own choice or that of someone else. But is all pain or discomfort bad? Ask an athlete after winning a race or new mother after giving birth . Sometimes the reward is by far greater than the difficulty it took to achieve it. Is there something you are facing that you keep putting off because it is scary, challenging, or uncomfortable. Can you for a moment imagine what you will feel like after you do that thing? Fixing our eyes on the prize is the best motivator to launch ourselves outside our comfort zone and into experiencing our potential, our purpose and life abundant. The first step outside the safe, comfortable and familiar is the hardest and the most exhilarating. Do it Afraid! Take that first step. You will be amazed and what you will discover about yourself!
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